Lost in a Maze of Grief?

Posted On June 5, 2017


by Nancy Wunderlich

Lost in a Maze of Grief?

by | Jun 5, 2017 | Self-Help Toolkit

Grief is a universal human experience that can arise from any form of loss. It’s a journey through a landscape of emotions, and just as landscapes vary, so does the experience of grief. For some, it may resemble a gentle, trickling stream, while for others, it’s a roaring, tumultuous river. Grief can be triggered by a myriad of reasons, such as the end of a relationship, a divorce, loss of a job, or even the passing of a beloved pet. However, it’s most commonly associated with the loss of a loved one through death. What makes grief so challenging is our collective struggle to talk about it openly and understand the emotions we’re grappling with. In this blog post, we’ll explore the multifaceted nature of grief, its symptoms, and how grief therapy can provide invaluable support and healing.

The Unpredictable Nature of Grief

Grief is an unpredictable journey, often marked by feelings we struggle to express. While many find it relatively easier to discuss break-ups, divorces, job losses, or illnesses, discussing the raw emotions of grief, especially in the context of death, can be daunting. It leaves us wondering how to make ourselves feel better and navigate this challenging period of mourning.

The Silence Surrounding Grief

Regrettably, most of us are ill-equipped to converse about grief. Well-intentioned phrases like “He’s in a better place now” or “It’s time to let go and move on” often leave the pain and suffering of the grieving individual unspoken and unaddressed.

Recognizing the Symptoms of Grief

  • Grief is expressed in a myriad of ways, some of which closely resemble symptoms of depression:
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Loss of appetite
  • Feelings of guilt, remorse, regret, and sadness
  • Fatigue and low energy
  • Loss of interest in previously enjoyed activities
  • Irritability and anger
  • Withdrawal from social interactions
  • When Grief Becomes “Complicated”

It’s essential to understand that not all grief is the same. Grief can become “complicated” when individuals experience overwhelming emotions like guilt, anger, numbness, detachment, or depression. Signs of complicated grief may include:

  • An intense fixation on the grief and the departed loved one
  • A strong aversion to anything that reminds you of your loss
  • An unwillingness to accept the reality of your loss
  • Feelings of irritability, agitation, or bitterness
  • An inability to derive joy from life or fulfill daily responsibilities
  • Overwhelming guilt or self-blame
  • Thoughts of your own death or even suicide
  • When grief takes on these complex dimensions, grief therapy becomes not just a choice but a vital necessity.

How Grief Therapy Can Offer Support

In grief therapy, clients are encouraged to express themselves at whatever stage of grief they find themselves in. This open and compassionate dialogue is crucial for processing the profound sense of loss. Grief therapists, like myself, listen without judgment, offering a safe space for the expression of thoughts and feelings. Feeling heard, cared for, and supported is an essential part of the healing process. It provides validation and helps individuals understand they are not alone in their pain.

Valuable Tools in Grief Therapy

In grief therapy, we employ various tools to facilitate healing:

1. Journaling: Writing serves as a potent healing practice. By putting your emotions and thoughts on paper, you can release pent-up feelings, promote acceptance, and find a sense of resolution.

2. Restructuring: Crisis often distorts our thinking and leaves us feeling isolated. I will gently guide you through your difficult emotions and beliefs, fostering acceptance of your grief and helping you move forward with greater ease.

Remember, You Are Not Alone

The most crucial message in grief therapy is this: you are not alone. Help is available, and it’s only a phone call away. If you or someone you know is navigating the challenging terrain of grief, please reach out to me for support at 303-956-8460.

Grief is a profound and complex journey, but it’s one that can be navigated with the right guidance and support. Together, we can find the path to healing and renewal.

Written by: Nancy Wunderlich

Nancy received her Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology at DePaul University in Chicago, IL. She was instinctively drawn to advanced studies in Transpersonal Psychology, the power of intentional thought, shamanism, experiential process work, and the psychology of emotional intelligence.

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