Vulnerability as a Strength

Posted On March 21, 2019


by Nancy Wunderlich

Vulnerability as a Strength

by | Mar 21, 2019 | Emotional Intelligence, Personal Growth

Vulnerability, often associated with weakness, is a concept that tends to trigger various apprehensions and fears in people’s minds. Many find themselves saying, “I’m too vulnerable to share my true feelings,” or “I’d rather not confront my vulnerabilities because it’s uncomfortable, and I fear losing control.” These reactions are not uncommon; they often arise from an innate need to protect ourselves from potential rejection, shame, or guilt. We construct an unconscious armor of self-protection, convincing ourselves that it’s safer to look away from our vulnerabilities and suppress our genuine emotions. Paradoxically, this avoidance can lead to increased suffering and isolation.

The Unconscious Fear of Vulnerability

In our unaware or unconscious state, vulnerability frequently triggers the emotional response of fear. These fears can manifest as:

  1. Harsh Judgment: The concern that others may judge us critically and harshly.
  2. Being Exploited: The fear of being taken advantage of, manipulated, or mistreated.
  3. Revisiting Unresolved Emotions: A reluctance to explore lingering, unresolved emotions, which can perpetuate undesirable experiences and patterns.
  4. Fear of Failure: The dread of taking risks and failing, which can be paralyzing and discouraging.

Embracing Authentic Vulnerability

However, when we consciously and authentically embrace our vulnerability, we step into a new and transformative reality—one characterized by empowerment and emotional growth. In this state of authenticity, we can:

  1. Cultivate Self-Comfort: Become not only comfortable but also accepting of our true selves, embracing our strengths and imperfections.
  2. Recognize Our Inherent Worth: Understand that we are inherently good enough just the way we are, and we are deserving of love, respect, and compassion.
  3. Establish Healthy Boundaries: Learn to set boundaries that not only protect us but also nurture our overall well-being and emotional health.
  4. Choose Mindful Responses: Develop the ability to observe our emotional reactions without judgment and make choices aligned with our authentic selves.
  5. Embrace Life’s Challenges: Approach life’s challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth, self-discovery, and personal development.

Fostering Emotional Intelligence

Embracing vulnerability is a pivotal step in nurturing and enhancing emotional intelligence. It allows us to engage with our emotions authentically and constructively. This newfound emotional awareness empowers us to navigate life’s complexities with resilience, confidence, and a deep sense of self-assuredness. It becomes a driving force behind our personal growth journey.

Take Action: Your Journey Towards Emotional Empowerment

Now, let’s transition from theory to action. Reflect on one of your personal goals, whether it’s related to your relationships, career, or personal development. What is one tangible step you can take to move closer to that goal while embracing vulnerability along the way? Remember, the path to emotional empowerment is a transformative journey, and every step you take is a significant stride forward. Please feel free to share your thoughts, insights, and experiences—I’m here to listen and support you on your path to emotional empowerment.

Written by: Nancy Wunderlich

Nancy received her Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology at DePaul University in Chicago, IL. She was instinctively drawn to advanced studies in Transpersonal Psychology, the power of intentional thought, shamanism, experiential process work, and the psychology of emotional intelligence.

Suggested Posts

For Further Reading…



Submit a Comment





4665 Nautilus Court S. 

Suite 100

Boulder, Colorado 80301

Life Coaching